Do You See Signs of Addiction at Home? What To Do

Having a sense something is off with your loved one, or child, is worrying. Is it stress? Is it just a funk? You might be searching online “how do I know if my child is addicted to drugs?” How do you know if a loved one is suffering a substance abuse problem? They will likely avoid the truth, and make up a lie to explain their “off” behavior. As a science-based alcohol and drug recovery center, our team at Lighthouse Recovery in Dallas has likely seen, and heard it all. Here are some of the more common indications someone you love is fighting a substance abuse problem, and needs to enroll in an IOP.

  • Requesting money more often

One common sign substance abuse has a hold on your loved one is money-related. If they consistently ask for cash, but don’t have items to show for the spending… it could be funding their substance abuse problem. 

  • Unexplained grocery bills

Related to simply asking for cash, some addicts know better than to request cold hard cash. What they might do is tack on extra beer or wine cases to their grocery bill (looks innocent enough!) and/or purchase gift cards to later use at liquor stores or to barter for drugs. If you notice skyrocketing grocery bills without an explanation, you need to investigate further. You might find your loved one needs to enroll in a substance abuse IOP like at Lighthouse Recovery in Dallas to help get control of their addiction.

IOP Program Benefits


We employ staff specializing in a wide range of modalities, allowing us to provide a more comprehensive approach. These modalities include, but are not limited to: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Psychodynamic Interpersonal Therapy (PIT), and Eye Movement Desensitization, and Reprocessing (EMDR).


Our highly trained staff work intensively with clients to address core issues. Every IOP session is aimed at reducing negative behaviors by addressing the emotions and thoughts that are often behind them. We work diligently and compassionately to make clients feel safe and understood.


Our flexible programming allows clients to continue to live at home, go to work or attend school, and still get the therapeutic support they need. The average intensive outpatient program lasts eight to twelve weeks and combines three group therapy sessions and one individual therapy session per week. We offer night groups and telehealth options for those with busier schedules.


Depending on the severity of the client’s case, programmatic therapy can be dramatically more cost-effective than a standard Inpatient Treatment program. We work with most private insurance providers to offset the majority of programming costs.

Insurances We Accept

Lighthouse accepts 100+ private insurance policies and offers cost-effective private-pay plans.
  • Avoiding events

Skipping or avoiding events and activities someone usually enjoys often indicates an alcohol or drug addiction problem that needs help. For school-aged children, this might look like a seemingly sudden decline in school grades or attendance. Or perhaps after loving playing school basketball, now they no longer want to practice or participate in activities they once loved. The person is prioritizing their alcohol or drug fix, showing they probably need an Intensive Outpatient Program for substance abuse. At Lighthouse Recovery, we work to identify the underlying causes that lead to addictive behaviors to promote long-term recovery. 

  • Unexplained bruises or cuts

If your child or loved one develops unexplainable cuts or bruises, it could be a sign of addiction. For some addicts, they experience a “black out” period and uncontrolled behavior, which could lead to bumps and falls making bruises or cuts show up. If this happens frequently, you want to pay closer attention to your child or loved one for other signs of a substance abuse problem.

  • Run down personal appearance or neglected hygiene 

Depending on how severe the addiction is, it may be so consuming the user starts looking run-down. You might notice greasy or messy hair, unbrushed teeth, or days-old clothing. This can happen because the days blur together for some users, where there isn’t a clear “beginning” during which to freshen up. They may also simply stop caring about personal appearance, focusing instead on their addiction. Certain drug addictions may present in certain physical ways – scratching skin, dilated pupils, extreme alertness, insomnia, twitching, and/or excessive sweating. Give us our substance abuse IOP team a call; we’re local right here in Dallas and can assess if your child or loved one would be a right fit. For some severe addictions, an inpatient stay at an alcohol or drug rehab center is recommended first before the IOP.

  • Missing items from the house 

Unfortunately, a real effect of the stronghold of drug addiction is the need to fuel that addiction by any means. The addict is constantly seeking ways to make or get money to continue their drug habit. You might notice valuable items going missing; they’re being sold or pawned for drug cash. Again, our drug addiction therapists through our IOP help identify the underlying causes of addiction, leading to long-term recovery.

  • Inability to remember events

If your child or loved one can’t recount what they did the previous evening, or common memories from a shared experience, they may have been severely under-the-influence of alcohol or drugs during those events. Pay special attention if you think they’re “faking” the memories; ask specific questions where a general, vague response doesn’t fit.

  • Dishonesty over small things

An addict might find themselves using money poorly/on their habit, skipping events they once loved, unable to remember certain events. Oftentimes, because of these actions, they start being dishonest over small things. They lie about which gas station they went to, or which friend they’re seeing. These inconsequential lies are an indication they might be caught in a bigger secret they’re struggling to maintain.

  • Trash filling up with bottles

Some alcohol addicts might not think anyone is watching, and not worry about hiding their cans or bottles. If you notice excess alcohol canisters in the trash (check indoor and outdoor garbage cans), it creates a clear reason to approach your loved one about their problem.

  • Leaving the house for hours/days without explanation

Notice how your loved one spends their time; especially an older child who suddenly disappears for hours or days at a time. How do they account for their time gone? How do they seem upon return? With severe addiction, certain users may pull all-nighters, or simply lose track of time (for days on end) because of the impaired and lethargic state the drugs create. 

  • (For alcohol addiction) Increased tolerance for alcohol 

Is your partner or child able to drink significantly more than standard recommendations? Do they consume multiple drinks an hour, fill a wine glass to the rim, yet seem unphased by the effects of alcohol? An increased tolerance for alcohol is a sign your loved one may need a professional’s help to address the underlying cause of their alcoholism. Through our IOP in Dallas, we use licensed, Master’s level therapists who are trained in substance abuse, and can help identify the underlying causes of alcohol addiction, leading to long-term recovery.

If you notice any of these substance abuse signs in a loved one, seek help immediately. You can always give us a call to see if our IOP is right for your loved one. If you need help getting through to your loved one about their drug or alcohol problem, we highly recommend Jeff Gould at Labor of Love Interventions. For some extreme addiction cases, a 30-day inpatient stay is a necessary first step, which we highly recommend following with an IOP to continue the recovery momentum and prevent relapse.

Why Choose our Dallas IOP?


Lighthouse IOP

Standard IOP

Program Philosophy
and Structure

  • Individualized, custom-built, and holistic curriculum

  • Maximum of 8 persons per group

  • Each client is matched with a Recovery Coach who can provide support outside of clinical programming by setting goals, building engagement in outside recovery groups, and creating accountability

  • All Lighthouse Therapists are Masters-level clinicans with a wide range of experiences so we can best match client to Therapist

  • Both in-person and Teleheath attendance options available

  • Both day and night groups available

  • 24/7 access to support plus 12 months of extended support

  • Standardized programming (usually an "off-the-shelf" curriculum)

  • Up to 30 persons per group

  • No Recovery Coaching i.e. program is limited to only hours spent in group and individual therapy leaving significant "gaps" in coverage

  • Experience of Therapist varies from company to company as does the ability to "match" a client with the most applicable Theraupetic experience

  • Attendance options vary from company to company

  • Group options vary from company to company

  • Extended support varies from company to company

Additional Program Features

  • Lighthouse is in-network with the most common insurance policies and accepts 100+ policies on an Out of Network basis

  • Preferred Access to our Recovery Coaching Program

  • Robust Network i.e. psychiatrists, neurofeeback specialists, etc.

  • Beautifully designed, private office building centrally located in Dallas, TX

  • In Network benefits vary from company to company

  • No access to in-house Recovery Coaching offered

  • Referral Network for Auxiliary Services varies from company to company

  • Condition and privacy of office varies from company to company

IOP Frequently Asked Questions

What is IOP?

Intensive outpatient program (IOP) is a lower level of care on the spectrum of treatment.  It usually consists of three 3-hour group sessions a week with a licensed therapist and at least one 1-hour individual therapy session. IOP is perfect for those stepping down from a Residential or Inpatient Treatment Center, or those that are unable to commit to going away for a minimum of 30 days. IOP is often a good alternative for those with families or careers that they are unable to take too much time away from.

Is IOP right for me?

An intensive outpatient program is suitable for most people at some point in their recovery journey. Although we like to be able to help as many individuals as possible at Lighthouse, some clients require a higher level of care initially due to the severity of their addiction and are later suitable for the IOP level of care. We offer a free assessment for everyone who calls needing help with no obligation to enroll in our programs. Let one of our trained professionals help you make the determination.

How long does IOP last?

Typically, an IOP lasts 8 to 12 weeks. There are a number of factors that help determine the intensive outpatient program length, such as insurance benefits, medical necessity, and engagement.

How much does IOP cost?

Treatment can be expensive, but IOP is often on the lower end cost-wise when comparing it to Residential or Inpatient care. We’re able to work with most private insurances to help offset the cost of your treatment with us.  If for some reason your insurance doesn’t cover our program or you don’t have insurance, we can always discuss our Scholarship Self-Pay rates. Our finance team may be able to help you set up a payment plan, if you are unable to come up with the full cost upfront.

What happens if I relapse in an IOP?

As unfortunate as it may appear to be at the time, every experience can be turned into a positive lesson, if you are honest and seek immediate help. For some people, relapse is part of the process and it only has to be a negative if you don’t work to get back on track. It’s hard for some people to come to terms with being addicted to alcohol or drugs, so a relapse could be the motivation to focus harder on their recovery. If one does occur, call your support system and your program contact immediately. One mistake does not have to derail your journey to lasting recovery and happiness.

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